Most of the time we just want to be successful, we want to be the best. However, due to that wish, often we forget that as Filipinos, we neglect our pride in our country and sometimes even HATE the life here in the Philippines.
Who can blame them? The life in the Philippines is really hard to live by. From minimum wage to corrupt officials.
Traffic congestion, poverty, social identity crisis, drugs…. and of course, the dissatisfaction of living a filipino way of life- the simple life.
So in the end, people who have lived and worked abroad will only say “The Philippines will never be successful.”
Heck, who wants to live a simple life? Who doesn’t want adventure, night lights, fast cars, and bed full of cash!?
See, when I went to go abroad, I only have one thing in my mind. To be successful! But that thought is so overrated that later when I was living in America, I felt as if my reason for working and living abroad is just a facade for a lesser reason.
I actually realized that when a Filipino goes Abroad, their families and loved ones often “worship” that OFW.
Yes, I said worship… Because whatever that person do with his life, as long people seem to see that he/she is abroad, then so is he/she is also SUCCESSFUL. So, who can make a successful person follow orders? You don’t, instead, YOU FOLLOW. That is the norm in the Philippines. When you are abroad, they stick with you like glue on a fresh banana peel. But if you are not abroad, even if you have a Master or Doctoral Degree, you are deemed “Mediocre”.
It doesn’t matter what kind of work, as long it is abroad, they can still feel ASSURED that they are living a rich life.
So, the family left behind would ask favors and gifts such as souvenirs or even money, just to feel the “ABROAD PRIDE” as some of us would say. What is abroad pride?
“Abroad Pride” is the pride often reflects in a Filipino especially if they want to be successful from other people in life. Once felt, that pride then becomes an egotistical mirror that is not shown to oneself but to other “less” fortunate in life opportunities i.e. the Philippines, its people, and its system of living.
For example, a filipino male worker who only finished high school was petitioned to live in the USA. Now, he posts on his social media site that he is living a “successful” life by showing the “bully challenge” post for those who made him feel bad. But in actuality, he is just a lazy &^% who just managed to get lucky from a petition. He is still working at McDonalds in Virginia.
Another example of “Abroad Pride” is going for a job in a different country (doesn’t matter if it is in the most dangerous country) as long they can call it abroad work. Why do they choose it? Well, because that is the only way they could tell their families, loved ones, rivals, co-workers, and the like, that regardless of what any people achieved in the PHILIPPINES, still, working or living abroad “EARNS MORE MONEY”. So they publish post telling showing their happy faces and all despite their sufferings as laborers – but we wouldn’t know that, do we?
One final example is when a person goes to a foreign country (say USA or UK or CANADA), they will start talking in English and not speak in Filipino when they come back to the Philippines – even if they just stayed there for 6 months. Sometimes, I would understand people who stayed for 4 to 10 years abroad, but it is quite hard for me to understand why they can’t talk straight Tagalog or Filipino even if they graduated high school in the Philippines. The thing is, THEY ACTUALLY CAN! They just decided not to because a Filipino who went abroad could also show his/her superiority by speaking a foreign language, even if its uncalled for – we call this in the Philippines as “Cono”.
People in the Philippines often feel that when a person goes abroad, they think that they are successful already.
But we all know the truth right? And it is wrong to assume so.
Living abroad is painful because of being away from our families. Even if life out there is harsh for some, they would rather live like an imaginary “rich” person than to go back to the Philippines and tell people “living abroad is still the same as living in the Philippines, it is still hard.”. But as you have read, because of pride and ego, we cannot just let go of the fact that it is the only thing that makes us “Better” than the rest. And that is the new generation of snobbish mentality in the Philippines.